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I told her!

For the uninitiated, this is the sequel to my last post about the semi-naked, drunk girl friend on chat :D

After some thinking and after much reading the comments on the previous post, I  decided to let my satanic part win this time ;) . Well, I had some good intentions in letting her know too.

See it yourself on the email I wrote to her :

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How’s you doing? Hope all is well.

We had a long chat on Monday night (your time) and you sounded..err..weird :)

It was quite obvious you were slosh drunk then. Not sure if you remember now, but  do check the chat archive logs.

A couple of things -

If it was indeed you who typed all that, then seriously avoid coming on  chat/phone/email while drunk. There might be wrong people out there to misuse a  situation and that might be kind of dangerous. You know what I mean, yeah?

If it was not you who typed on chat that day , then make sure your account was not  hacked and used by somebody else. That thought it damn creepy!

Take care.

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I received a hasty little response from her the same day that said :

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I am fine. Very Sorry.. I shouldn’t have come online when I was drunk.

I just checked the chat archives..

Want to talk to you. Will catch you online without the booze this time :)

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The next day she popped up on the chat as soon as I logged in, as if she had been waiting!

Her name on chat involuntarily shot up a big red warning sign in my head. Thankfully, she was sane and sober this time.

Embarrassed apologies ensued, later followed by profuse requests not to divulge any of  what-took-place-that-night to her people, especially the husband!

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Her: I did all of it without the husband knowing. He still doesn’t have a clue. Let this remain between just the two of us, please.

Me: Sure, don’t worry. But, why didn’t you tell the husband?

Her: What should I tell? You tell me.

Me: You could say you had a couple of drinks..bit too much to handle and not mention about other things. To keep him informed, I guess.

Her: Hmm..I just had one glass you know?

Me: Haha! No way! That’s too less to get intoxicated :D

Her: Really!

Me: One glass of wine = Just half of the glass from the rim.

Her: I had a full glass … or was it a full bottle..oh, can’t recall.

Me: :D That’s all right. Forget it.

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At this point I actually started feeling sorry for her situation. So, a quick  change of topic had us talking a bit of work, a little of family and a lot of the good old school days !

Finally, it all ended nice..with smiles lingering afterwards:

She: Am really happy now that I have spoken to you about it..phew!

Me: Ditto here .

She: Good Night, Sleep tight :)

Me: May the Bed Bugs not bite :)

I know her from kindergarten. We went to the same school and then the same pre-university college. We were friends, not thick buddies, not great pals..just friends.
Tall, beautiful, athletic, talented – She was all this bundled up in a strong charming persona everyone seemed to admire. I did too, but not in the same light. I secretly envied her for all she was. Not that I was lesser, but just because I could not be her!
We parted ways soon after college and went on with our lives. I lost touch with  her, as with many from school until we bumped each other on a networking site  sometime back. She was married and was living a good life. I went through her  pictures and realized that I don’t feel the envious pangs anymore…but it had not died down either.
Yesterday, finally, the jealousy died. Just like that, it went away. It is since been replaced by a smug smirk ;)
Want to know how?
Out of the blue, she pinged me on chat yesterday. I was surprised since that was least expected. We were neither close enough or bothered to check on each other by any means, anytime before that.
She started with a casual ‘Hi, Are you there?’ and I responded. It was all normal conversation for a few minutes. But, what followed later, totally took me aback! While I am still shaking my head in disbelief, the chat log tells me it did really happen.
Here are the excerpts from the chat for you. You will know why I am holding back a chuckle and smiling a vicious smile now.
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She: Ok..going to sleep now
Me: Ok, Good night, Sleep tight and may the bed bugs not bite. Nice catching up  with you today. :)
She: You are making Me hot ;-)
Me: haha!!  :D   * ‘hehe..what??*
She: But Me alone na
Me: oh..why so? where’s hubby?
She: :-( He is out. So how about you?
Me: Its 12 noon on Monday and am at office now..
She: You in mood?
Me: * Gulp.What’s wrong with her?*  Not really , especially when you are in office  working on some boring stuff. But, looks like you are! Time to call up your guy, I  guess. :D
She: Will call him later. Do u know what dress I am in?
Me: * My tubelight brain just lighted up!*  Hey, one question..
She: Yes
Me: You been drinking?
She: No..yes..I mean not yet. Why?
Me: You sound different than I used to know..
She: Oh, its all because of …….the mood ;)
Me: Ok, I get it  *time to run away!*
She: what did you get?
Me: Chalo, will get back to working now, you get some sleep or maybe talk to your  guy.Take care, bye now
She: mmm..so you are going??
Me: Sorry, am in office and got loads of things to finish. Monday today na :(  * You better end it here miss or be prepared to be shit embarrassed tomorrow when you are sober *
She: Yes, Monday night for me…Ok, I had some wine.. nothing to hide..makes me feel gooooood.You know, I am just in my bra and panty.
Me: * OMG! Help!*  Wine is fine, I have it occasionally too. But I think u have had too much of it ..go sleep now, ok? I have gottu get back to work, really.
She: I didn’t know when to stop drinking..but, it’s really made me hot ;)
Me: * Uff!! You really need help girl * Hmm.I think you should drink only when  there are friends or people with you girl….getting drunk alone like this is not fun.
She: I was with my colleagues…As soon as I got home I removed all my clothes except bra and panty you know?
Me: * Gosh, this is getting freaky! * Hmm.. Take a nice shower then.
She: I feel so horny, not sure why..
Me: All the wine you had is acting up. Go take a shower and drink lots of  water..will make you feel better. * Phew! I am tired trying to put some sense here  *
She: Hmm..I am going to be on bed for some time and enjoy, ok ;)
Me: Go ahead, but I need to leave now. Bye * Run for your life! *
She: ok..catch u later..Good night
Me: ..
She: Tell na Good night ;)
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Not sure if she even remembered this chat when she woke up next day.
I have two options:
Leave her a line asking to check her chat log and imagine her going red with embarrassment.
OR
Act all zen by pretending nothing ever happened and move on.
The bad jealous part of me votes for the former, while the angelic halo part of me chooses the latter.
What do you say?

I know her from kindergarten. We went to the same school and then the same pre-university college. We were friends, not thick buddies, not great pals..just friends.

Tall, beautiful, athletic, talented – She was all this bundled up in a strong charming persona everyone seemed to admire. I did too, but not in the same light. I secretly envied her for all she was. Not that I was lesser, but just because I could not be her!

We parted ways soon after college and went on with our lives. I lost touch with  her, as with many from school until we bumped each other on a networking site  sometime back. She was married and was living a good life. I went through her  pictures and realized that I don’t feel the envious pangs anymore…but it had not died down either.

Yesterday, finally, the jealousy died. Just like that, it went away. It has since been replaced by a smug smirk ;)

Want to know how?

Out of the blue, she pinged me on chat yesterday. I was surprised since that was least expected. Not just because it was late at night in India. We were neither close enough nor bothered to check on each other by any means, anytime before that.

She started with a casual ‘Hi, Are you there?’ and I responded. It was all normal conversation for a few minutes. But, what followed later, totally took me aback! While I am still shaking my head in disbelief, the chat log tells me it did really happen.

Here are the excerpts from the chat for you. You will know why I am holding back a chuckle and smiling a vicious smile now.

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She: Ok..going to sleep now

Me: Ok, Good night, Sleep tight and may the bed bugs not bite. Nice catching up  with you today. :)

She: You are making Me hot ;-)

Me: haha!!  :D   * ‘hehe..what??*

She: But me alone na

Me: oh..why so? where’s hubby?

She: :-( He is out. So how about you?

Me: Its 12 noon on Monday and am at office now..

She: You in mood?

Me: * Gulp.What’s wrong with her?* Not really , especially when you are in office  working on some boring stuff. But, looks like you are! Time to call up your guy, I  guess. :D

She: Will call him later. Do u know what dress I am in?

Me: * My tubelight brain just lighted up!* Hey, one question..

She: Yes

Me: You been drinking?

She: No..yes..I mean not yet. Why?

Me: You sound different than I used to know..

She: Oh, its all because of …….the mood ;)

Me: Ok, I get it  *time to run away!*

She: what did you get?

Me: Chalo, will get back to working now, you get some sleep or maybe talk to your  guy.Take care, bye now

She: mmm..so you are going??

Me: Sorry, am in office and got loads of things to finish. Monday today na :(    * You better end it here miss or be prepared to be shit embarrassed tomorrow when you are sober *

She: Yes, Monday night for me…Ok, I had some wine.. nothing to hide..makes me feel gooooood.You know, I am just in my bra and panty.

Me: * OMG! Help!* Wine is fine, I have it occasionally too. But I think you have had too much of it ..go sleep now, ok? I have gottu get back to work, really.

She: I didn’t know when to stop drinking..but, it’s really made me hot ;)

Me: * Uff!! You really need help girl * Hmm.I think you should drink only when  there are friends or people with you girl….getting drunk alone like this is not fun.

She: I was with my colleagues…As soon as I got home I removed all my clothes except bra and panty you know?

Me: * Gosh, this is getting freaky! * Hmm.. Take a nice shower then.

She: I feel so horny, not sure why..

Me: All the wine you had is acting up. Go take a shower and drink lots of  water..will make you feel better. * Phew! I am tired trying to put some sense here  *

She: Hmm..I am going to be on bed for some time and enjoy, ok ;)

Me: Go ahead, but I need to leave now. Bye  * Run for your life! *

She: ok..catch you later..Good night

Me: ..

She: Tell na.. Good night ;)

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Not sure if she even remembered this chat when she woke up next day.

I have two options:

Leave her a line asking to check her chat log and imagine her going red with embarrassment.

OR

Act all zen by pretending nothing ever happened and move on.

The bad jealous part of me votes for the former, while the angelic halo part of me chooses the latter.

What do you say? :)

Lunch break conversation in the cafeteria:
Me: So, what do you have for breakfast?
DesiColleagueGuy1: Parathey
Me: Daily?
DesiColleagueGuy1: Yes, my wife wakes up early and makes them for me everyday.
Me: Wow!!
DesiColleagueGuy2: Why do you act so shocked? His wife is just being a good  ’Bharatiya Naari’.
Me: What? Why do you label it that? Who set the benchmark for a Bharatiya Naari ?
DesiColleagueGuy2:Now don’t act all non-feminist. I just spoke fact.
Me: Firstly, it is ‘feminist’ and not ‘non’.Do you even know what it means?
DesiColleagueGuy2: Whatever..
Me: The ‘Bharatiya Naari’ and its specifications all came from men.
DesiColleagueGuy2: So what?
Me: If women were given a chance they would change the definition of Bharatiya Naari, am sure.
DesiColleagueGuy2: Haha, who stopped them?
Me: Now, don’t get me started man,. From time immemorial women have been treated inferior by men. Mostly because men are physically stronger.
DesiColleagueGuy1: How can you say that? I think it is more to do with mental  strength and intelligence.
Me: And how is that?
DesiColleagueGuy1: Look, if women had enough mental strength and smartness to break the rules and go ahead, they would have! No man could have stopped them.
Me: You mean women were treated inferior because they were less smarter than men?
DesiColleagueGuy2: Of course! We even have a saying in my native language for that. Translates to say “smartness of a woman is lesser than the sole of her feet”
Me: Wha..???
DesiColleagueGuy1: So, it has all to do with mental abilities ..and why men claimed superiority
Me: Huh? I will never accept women are any lesser than men when it comes to brains. I think it all started with physical differences. Men kept women subdued because  they were the weaker of the sexes, physically. Since the age old days, men were the ones who built countries and formed laws.Women were hardly in picture!
DesiColleagueGuy1: Ah…Why were they not in picture? Because they  were not smart enough.
Me: You don’t get my point!
DesiColleagueGuy2: All this argument because you don’t make paratheys for your husband every morning? Hahaha
Me: #%^&*)%%^&*(@$%% !!
Either my route to the argument was wrong or those two MCP’s were just not getting it.
What do you think? For centuries, women were treated inferior by men. Things have changed/are changing for the better now..but how did it all start?
Was it physical differences or was there something else to it?

Lunch break conversation in the cafeteria:

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Me: So, what do you have for breakfast usually?

DesiColleagueGuy1: Parathey

Me: Daily?

DesiColleagueGuy1: Yes, my wife wakes up early and makes them for me everyday.

Me: Wow!!

DesiColleagueGuy2:  Why do you act so shocked? His wife is just being a good  ’Bharatiya Naari’.

Me: What? Why do you label it that? Who set the benchmark for a Bharatiya Naari ?

DesiColleagueGuy2: Now don’t act all non-feminist. I just spoke fact.

Me: Firstly, it is ‘feminist’ without a ”non’. Do you even know what it means?

DesiColleagueGuy2: Whatever..

Me: The ‘Bharatiya Naari’ and its specifications all came from men.

DesiColleagueGuy2: So what?

Me: If women were given a chance they would change the definition of Bharatiya Naari, am sure.

DesiColleagueGuy2: Haha, who stopped them?

Me: Now, don’t get me started man.. .from time immemorial women have been treated inferior by men. Mostly because men are physically stronger.

DesiColleagueGuy1: How can you say that? I think it is more to do with mental  strength and intelligence.

Me: And how is that?

DesiColleagueGuy1: Look, if women had enough mental strength and smartness to break the rules and go ahead, they would have! No man could have stopped them.

Me: You mean women were treated low because they were not as smart as men?

DesiColleagueGuy2: Of course! We even have a saying in my native language which translates to say “smartness of a woman is lesser than the sole of her feet” Hehe.

Me: Wha..???

DesiColleagueGuy1: So, it has all to do with mental abilities ..and why men claimed superiority

Me: Huh? I will never accept women are any lesser than men when it comes to brains. I think it all started with physical differences. Men kept women subdued because  they were the weaker of the sexes, physically. Since the age old days, men were the ones who built countries and formed laws.Women were hardly in picture!

DesiColleagueGuy1: Ah…Why were they not in picture? Because they  were not smart enough.

Me: You don’t get my point!

DesiColleagueGuy2: All this argument because you don’t make paratheys for your husband every morning? Hahaha

Me: #%^&*)%%^&*(@$%%

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Either my route to the argument was not strong enough or those two MCP’s were just not getting it.

What do you think?  Bharatiya or not, for centuries, women were treated inferior by men. Things have changed/are changing for the better now..but how did it all start?

Was it physical differences or was there something else to it?

Imagine a dark night, standing in the middle of a forest, cold breeze making a compelling whisper and there is a sudden hoot heard from a distance…Ok, that was a lame attempt at painting a scary picture. My recent ‘camping in the wilderness’ experience was anything but scary :)

Humboldt Redwood State Park was the venue .

It was the first time camping, for us as well as for our camping mates (another couple, Pr the husband and Lx the wife.) But tips and pointers from a dozen experienced people did us good. Tents and tools, blankets and buckets, matchbox and masalas – we arrived all prepared..or so we thought.

First thing we did after setting up the tent was to get out the stove and make some hot masala chai.Just when all were patting own backs for a task accomplished, one asked ‘Where’s the strainer?”. Never would anyone realize the dire importance of a tea strainer until you are stuck without one on a cold evening in the middle of the jungle ..and with some smoking hot chai waiting to be filtered and sipped. Arrgh! Anyways, it took only a few minutes before we came up with an alternative – paper towel. It took patient minutes of slow and steady pouring, but it worked! Here is the proof :D

Me with Pb at a mission ;)

Me with Pr at a mission ;)

Later in the evening, a leisurely walk in the woods, hand in hand with H was rejuvenating…like untying some knots from the inner being and setting them free.

Stroll

It was darker and colder soon. The able men of the  21st century took more than 10 minutes to figure out the right way to set up a camp fire before we could finally sit and warm ourselves :D

An elaborate dinner prep ensued and though it took little more than an hour, our menu read like this -

Grilled corn on the cob with salt, pepper and lemon rubbed on

Grilled and fried potatoes with a good dash of salt and chili powder

Readymade Parathas and paneer palak reheated to perfection

Dahi/yogurt for the sides

Pickles of 3 variety

Cookies for desert

All of the above washed down along a glass of wine..that’s one awesome feeling right there!

 

After a while we retired for the night with a sleeping bag and a book into our tents  and called it a day..a fulfilling day :)

Retiring

Night was in fact the toughest part. Three layers of clothing, a fleece blanket under a thick insulation sleeping bag and still it felt cold!

In hardly 30 minutes, we heard Pr calling out for H . It was getting hard to breathe, he said. H tried to keep a calm outlook and asked him to try doing the inhale-exhale deeply. He came out of the tent,  tried exactly that and immediately felt better. The reason for the temporary breathing problem was because his body did not like the enclosed space he was lying in. Pr and H set out in the car looking for a motel to sleep…it was midnight. I lie in my tent, tightly closed eyes, pretending to have fallen asleep in that pitch darkness. Lx was also around, but no help at all. For the kind of condescendingly cold person she is, I am not sure if she was even worried for her husband. No kidding!

The boys returned in some time and complained there was no place to stay around the forest. Duh ?! Finally Pr and Lx moved out  and slept on the comfy reclining seats in the car .

Dawn broke and I woke up to the sounds of woodpeckers busy at work. The morning was a magnificent sight. How often do you open your eyes to something like this?

Morning lights

Those ultra maintained common shower rooms and rest rooms for campers was a blessing. I can live natural..but..err..not having to look for bushes or wide trees to do your daily job..hehe.

Kudos to the H’s planning, we spent the morning playing amidst those pleasant green surroundings. Collecting the Shuttle Cork and Frisbee back when they flew into broken twigs or thorny bushes did not seem like a big deal at all!

After a quick breakfast, we packed our swim suits and set out to a river nearby. While the day was sunny enough for the guys to open up chilled beer cans, the river water gave us shivers. So it was just wetting our feet and posing for some pics..and of course munching on the salt snacks we brought along.

Riverside

It was lunch time and we soon were back at our camp site lighting our stove. By then it was pretty obvious that Pr is a thoroughly helpful and friendly person while Lx is just the opposite. She just stood there carelessly watching us work, occasionally lifting a random object off the table and asking me ‘ where should I keep this?’. Super Annoying. I sure grumbled in my head ‘ Does this look like my private kitchen? Find your work and be a team member if you can, missy’. 

The drive to the ‘Avenue of Giants’ through the forest roads was so amazing that we had to stop mid way to take it all in. I was acting like a crazy monkey-brand in the middle of the road..too happy to be there, I guess ;)

Crazy

The rest half of the day was spent trekking in that wilderness- one of the most gorgeous I have ever seen. The narrow mud path among the giant redwoods humbles you. Each one of those trees age back a thousand years…and every single tree releases more then 500 gallons of water into the air, in a single day! ( yeah, yeah..I read the facts).

Now, tell me, does this picture remind you of Jurassic park? I waited to spot a T-Rex too :P

JurassicPark

On the way back to the camp site, the boys made a spontaneous decision and turned the car towards one other popular spot nearby, the Trinidad beach. It was an hour long drive and though hungry and tired by then, we got out of the car for a view like this… and forgot everything else.

Trinidad Beach

Walking down the steps towards the beach, humming a silly song ..

Steps

I remember standing still near that rock and heartily thanking God – for making earth so beautiful and putting me in it to savor every bit.

Thoughts

Next day, bidding good bye was hard, but we knew we were not going back empty. 

We had the greenest of memories and the most gratifying of moments to take back home with us….much more than asked for :)

 

Imagine a dark night, standing in the middle of a forest, cold breeze making a compelling whisper and there is a sudden hoot heard from a distance.Ok, that was a lame attempt at painting a scary picture. My recent ‘camping in the wilderness’ experience was anything but scary :)
Humboldt Redwood State Park was the venue.( http://www.humboldtredwoods.org/ ).It was the first time camping, for us as well as for our camping mates (another couple, Pb the husband and Lx the wife.) But tips and pointers from a dozen experienced people did us good. Tents and tools, blankets and buckets, matchbox and masalas – we arrived all prepared..or so we thought. First thing we did after setting up the tent was to get out the stove and make some hot masala chai.Just when all were patting own backs for a task accomplished, one asked ‘Where’s the strainer?”. Never would anyone realize the dire importance of a tea strainer until you are stuck without one on a cold evening in the middle of the jungle and with some smoking hot chai smoking waiting to be filtered and sipped. Arrgh! Anyways, it took only a few minutes before we came up with an alternative – paper towel. It took patient minutes of slow and steady pouring, but it worked! Here is the proof :D
Photo
Later in the evening, a leisurely walk in the woods, hand in hand with H was rejuvenating…like untying some knots from the inner being and setting them free.
Photo
It was darker and colder soon. The able men of the  21st century took more than 10 minutes to figure out the right way to set up a camp fire before we could finally sit and warm ourselves :D
An elaborate dinner prep ensued and though it took little more than an hour, our menu read like this -
Grilled corn on the cob with salt, pepper and lemon rubbed in
Grilled and fried potatoes with a good dash of salt and chili powder
Readymade Parathas and paneer palak reheated to perfection
Dahi/yogurt for the sides
Pickles of 3 variety
Cookies for desert
All of the above washed down along a glass of wine..that’s one awesome feeling right there!
After a while we retired for the night with a sleeping bag and a book into our tents, we called it a day..fulfilling day :)
Photo
Night was in fact the toughest part. Three layers of clothing, a fleece blanket under a thick insulation sleeping bag and still it felt cold. I was somehow falling asleep when Pr called out for H and worriedly said he is unable to sleep..or breathe! H tried to keep a calm outlook and asked him to try doing the inhale-exhale deeply. He came out of the tent and tried it and immediately felt better. The reason for the temporary breathing problem was because his body did not like the enclosed space he was lying in. Pr and H set out in the car looking for a motel to sleep…it was midnight. I lie in my tent, tightly closed eyes, pretending to have fallen asleep in that pitch darkness.Lx was also around, but no help at all. For the kind of condescendingly cold kind of person she is, I am not sure if she was even worried for her husband. No kidding!
The boys returned in some time and complained there was no place to stay around the forest. Duh ?! Finally Pr and Lx moved out of tents and slept in the car reclining the comfy seats to the fullest.
Dawn broke and I woke up to the sounds of woodpeckers busy at work, pecking at trees. How often do you open your eyes to something like this?
Photo
Those ultra maintained common shower rooms and rest rooms for campers was a blessing. I can live wild..but..err..not having to look for bushes and wide trees to do your job..hehe.
Kudos to the H’s planning, we spent the morning playing amidst those pleasant green surroundings. Collecting the Shuttle Cork and Frisbee back when they flew into some broken twigs or thorny bushes did not seem like a big deal at all!
After a quick breakfast, we packed up our swim suits and set out to a river nearby. while the day was sunny enough for the guys to open up chilled beer cans, the river water gave us shivers. So it was just wetting our feet and posing for some pics..and of course munching on the salt snacks seated on the sands.
Photo
It was lunch time and we were soon back at our camp site lighting our stove. By then it was pretty obvious that Pr is a thoroughly helpful and friendly person while Lx was just the opposite. She just stood there carelessly watching us work, occasionally lifting a random object off the table and asking me ‘ where should I keep this?’. Super Annoying. I sure grumbled in my head ‘ Does this look like my private kitchen? Find your work and be a team member if you can, missy’. 
The drive to the ‘Avenue of Giants’ through the forest roads was so amazing that we had to stop mid way to take it all in. I was acting like a crazy monkey brand in the middle of the road..too happy to be there, I guess ;)
Photo
The rest half of the day was spent trekking in that wilderness- one of the most gorgeous I have ever seen. The narrow mud path among the giant redwoods humbles you. Each one of those trees age back a thousand years…and every single tree produces more then 500 gallons of water in a single day! ( yeah, yeah..I read the facts).
Now, tell me, does this remind you of Jurassic park? I waited to spot a T-Rex too :P
Photo
On the way back to the camp site, the boys made a spontaneous decision and turned the car towards one other popular spot nearby. It was an hour long driving distance. Though hungry and tired by then, we go out of the car for a view like this, and forgot everything else.
Photo
Walking down the steps towards the beach, humming a silly song ..
I remember standing still near that rock and heartily thanking God – for making earth so beautiful and putting me in it to savor every bit.
Photo
Next day, bidding good bye was hard, but we knew we were not going back empty. 
We had the greenest of memories and the most gratifying of moments to take back home with us….and that was more than enough :)
Imagine a dark night, standing in the middle of a forest, cold breeze making a compelling whisper and there is a sudden hoot heard from a distance.Ok, that was a lame attempt at painting a scary picture. My recent ‘camping in the wilderness’ experience was anything but scary :)
Humboldt Redwood State Park was the venue.( http://www.humboldtredwoods.org/ ).It was the first time camping, for us as well as for our camping mates (another couple, Pb the husband and Lx the wife.) But tips and pointers from a dozen experienced people did us good. Tents and tools, blankets and buckets, matchbox and masalas – we arrived all prepared..or so we thought. First thing we did after setting up the tent was to get out the stove and make some hot masala chai.Just when all were patting own backs for a task accomplished, one asked ‘Where’s the strainer?”. Never would anyone realize the dire importance of a tea strainer until you are stuck without one on a cold evening in the middle of the jungle and with some smoking hot chai smoking waiting to be filtered and sipped. Arrgh! Anyways, it took only a few minutes before we came up with an alternative – paper towel. It took patient minutes of slow and steady pouring, but it worked! Here is the proof :D
Photo
Later in the evening, a leisurely walk in the woods, hand in hand with H was rejuvenating…like untying some knots from the inner being and setting them free.
Photo
It was darker and colder soon. The able men of the  21st century took more than 10 minutes to figure out the right way to set up a camp fire before we could finally sit and warm ourselves :D
An elaborate dinner prep ensued and though it took little more than an hour, our menu read like this -
Grilled corn on the cob with salt, pepper and lemon rubbed in
Grilled and fried potatoes with a good dash of salt and chili powder
Readymade Parathas and paneer palak reheated to perfection
Dahi/yogurt for the sides
Pickles of 3 variety
Cookies for desert
All of the above washed down along a glass of wine..that’s one awesome feeling right there!
After a while we retired for the night with a sleeping bag and a book into our tents, we called it a day..fulfilling day :)
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Night was in fact the toughest part. Three layers of clothing, a fleece blanket under a thick insulation sleeping bag and still it felt cold. I was somehow falling asleep when Pr called out for H and worriedly said he is unable to sleep..or breathe! H tried to keep a calm outlook and asked him to try doing the inhale-exhale deeply. He came out of the tent and tried it and immediately felt better. The reason for the temporary breathing problem was because his body did not like the enclosed space he was lying in. Pr and H set out in the car looking for a motel to sleep…it was midnight. I lie in my tent, tightly closed eyes, pretending to have fallen asleep in that pitch darkness.Lx was also around, but no help at all. For the kind of condescendingly cold kind of person she is, I am not sure if she was even worried for her husband. No kidding!
The boys returned in some time and complained there was no place to stay around the forest. Duh ?! Finally Pr and Lx moved out of tents and slept in the car reclining the comfy seats to the fullest.
Dawn broke and I woke up to the sounds of woodpeckers busy at work, pecking at trees. How often do you open your eyes to something like this?
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Those ultra maintained common shower rooms and rest rooms for campers was a blessing. I can live wild..but..err..not having to look for bushes and wide trees to do your job..hehe.
Kudos to the H’s planning, we spent the morning playing amidst those pleasant green surroundings. Collecting the Shuttle Cork and Frisbee back when they flew into some broken twigs or thorny bushes did not seem like a big deal at all!
After a quick breakfast, we packed up our swim suits and set out to a river nearby. while the day was sunny enough for the guys to open up chilled beer cans, the river water gave us shivers. So it was just wetting our feet and posing for some pics..and of course munching on the salt snacks seated on the sands.
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It was lunch time and we were soon back at our camp site lighting our stove. By then it was pretty obvious that Pr is a thoroughly helpful and friendly person while Lx was just the opposite. She just stood there carelessly watching us work, occasionally lifting a random object off the table and asking me ‘ where should I keep this?’. Super Annoying. I sure grumbled in my head ‘ Does this look like my private kitchen? Find your work and be a team member if you can, missy’. 
The drive to the ‘Avenue of Giants’ through the forest roads was so amazing that we had to stop mid way to take it all in. I was acting like a crazy monkey brand in the middle of the road..too happy to be there, I guess ;)
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The rest half of the day was spent trekking in that wilderness- one of the most gorgeous I have ever seen. The narrow mud path among the giant redwoods humbles you. Each one of those trees age back a thousand years…and every single tree produces more then 500 gallons of water in a single day! ( yeah, yeah..I read the facts).
Now, tell me, does this remind you of Jurassic park? I waited to spot a T-Rex too :P
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On the way back to the camp site, the boys made a spontaneous decision and turned the car towards one other popular spot nearby. It was an hour long driving distance. Though hungry and tired by then, we go out of the car for a view like this, and forgot everything else.
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Walking down the steps towards the beach, humming a silly song ..
I remember standing still near that rock and heartily thanking God – for making earth so beautiful and putting me in it to savor every bit.
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Next day, bidding good bye was hard, but we knew we were not going back empty. 
We had the greenest of memories and the most gratifying of moments to take back home with us….and that was more than enough :)

I had plans to write down a fun list of things that has been happening with me in recent times.As I biked on the trail bearing the cold evening wind and smiling at the big bright moon above me yesterday, I made a mental note of all that I was going to jot down here.

But, I woke up to a strange day today.

No smile in return to my smile when I woke up, no ‘Good Morning’ hug, not even a word from H.

I knew the reason why, so let it pass. He is taking his time, but will be back to me soon..I thought.

Like any normal morning, on a working day, I got busy packing lunch for both of us while H went into the bathroom to shower. In some time, I heard him come out and get ready for office.

As I stood there, in the kitchen, very sure about H coming in to pick up his lunch and say bye, I heard the main door bang shut. I continued to stand there, fidgeting with the things on the kitchen counter, still assuming that he went out for something and will be back..to pick up his lunch and say bye.

I might have stood there for about 10 minutes before coming out to the living room and finding out his laptop bag gone. So, were his shoes and the car outside. All gone.

He had left..without a word.

Never happened before.

It started yesterday night when we went to this couples place ( Sh the wife and Mh the husband) for dinner.They are H’s distant relatives too.

Sh and Mh are one of the most open minded and liberal people I have known. From ideas for a better socio economic society to dealing with annoying people in the family, their perspective has mostly left me nodding my head and thinking ‘Wow! they should blog!’ (Yeah, I checked, they didn’t. Hmmmph.)

So, after dinner all 4 of us sat down with some really delicious Rasmalai, talking over general matters, when this sensitive topic came up.

Me and H have always had difference of opinion about how far can one go with religious beliefs. Yes, we both are hindus, still.

I am of the opinion that each have their own standards of being religious.

One might want to wake up at 4 AM in the morning and climb up 1000 steps up the hill and pray to feel connected to God.
While some others might just feel equally connected just by sitting at home and chanting a few mantras with devotion.

One might feel that falling at the feet of all the ‘holy’ men and accepting their ‘holy’ prasadam is one way to salvation.
While some others might detest the same, and think there need not be any mediators between you and God. Not holy men.

One might believe that donating generously to temples is the best way to support the betterment of society, indirectly.
While some others might believe direct donations for the betterment of poor and needy is the only way to go.

If you have not guessed yet, the latter are my type of people. H belongs to the former group of believers.

I was caught in the heat of the moment and proved to the crowd how H belongs to the old school of thought and has forced me into it, many times, without my consent. Sh and Mh, supported my point of view fairly aggressively.

I might have pulled some sensitive chord somewhere at some point during this whole thing…because H said ” Then, why did you ever have to marry me?”

I tried making the air lighter by joking ” Well, you did not have your religious beliefs listed on your resume when I chose to marry you” with a genuine smile.

But, I guess the damage was done.

H did not utter a word to me during the entire drive back. I tried my best to tell him that it was just a healthy discussion and I totally support his beliefs though I don’t believe in them.

It is way past 2 in the afternoon now, the next day..and there is still not a word from the other end.

I have left him a voice message , 2 emails and about 5 missed calls so far. I am not being let in, yet.

Hey H,

Have I done/spoken anything that deserves such a punishment?
I do have my right to speak my mind, no? You got your fair chance too.

Come on now, sweetheart, it is getting lonely without you already.

Temples, beliefs and holy men might be all that they are worth…but not enough to keep us sad like this.

Come on now, call up and say “I miss you too”.

I’ll eagerly wait for your bear hug when I reach home from office today.

Are you listening?

:(

Rest can wait, I have a hot update from the plate.

I took my driving test today.

What’s the big deal, you ask ?? Read on :

California is one of those states with most strict driving laws and even stricter driving tests. Eight out of the ten people I know have not passed it until the second or third attempt :(

Back in my little town in India, I remember my driving test was a smooth sail, where passing or failing depended more on how much you could pay the inspector rather than how you drove ;) Bad, I know..but what the heck, that was so easy !

But out here now, you realize how serious is this thing you are getting into when you casually tell people about your upcoming driving test and hear a really concerned and heartfelt ‘ Oh !! All the Best!”, more often accompanied by free pieces of advice :” Make sure you don’t slow down too much in a left turn” or “Keep scanning around while in school areas”.

Paranoia sets in pretty easily, especially for one like me who is so averse to driving ( Uh, oh, Fine..Scared of driving ) that I have been bicycling to office until now. Also, read that it makes me proud to bicycle – as a means of great exercise plus avoiding contribution to the traffic pollution !

I digress.

Initial practice sessions were with the hubby, who already has a bad reputation for temper. I respectfully accept the fact that I heard enough and more of foul words from that guy in those few weeks than any gangster in Chicago would ever hear in his lifetime. Okay, exaggeration. But I am a sensitive little being who happens to be his wife, come on now, show some love !

The hubby’s so-called training got so frustrating that I gulped down tumblers of my tears every time I drove. Finally, some solace arrived in the form of ‘Nick’, the driving instructor recommended by a close cousin.

Nick was more than 60 years of age, but maintained a healthy trim body for his small Chinese build. He never used foul words..but..err..yelled anyways, using normal words. Though he said ‘Kickklinggg’ for ‘Keep going’ and ‘ Fined Fote’ for ‘Blind Spot’, he did teach me some cool tricks to backup and parallel park.

However, the day before the test I figured that I held no hope for the next day. The hubby had never ever mentioned that I can pass nor had Nick. If I was worthy of so much yelling, I really didn’t make a good driver.. yet.

I wanted to give it a shot anyway and went to the test center after thorough prayers and pleadings to Lord Ganesha, my favorite one.

The inspector was a lady…sweet looking. She sat down next to me, smiled and softly said “Go straight until the end and then take a right, okay?”. And..my heart almost melted. For the first time in the history of this poor soul, a person had spoken politely/softly while driving !!! I clearly felt my spirits rise and before I knew I was making small talk with her on the road as I drove :D ( Hey, plain breathing was a big deal when driving with Hubby or Nick. So this one surely was something ! )

Take a left ; Change the lane ; Pull over to park ; Back up Reverse – Nothing was complicated anymore.

When done, it felt just natural to hear “Good, you passed.”

Hubby was shocked and Nick almost had a heart attack when I told the news. But, they did smile and nod affirmatively when I pointed out “The inspector never yelled at me. She spoke sweet and polite, I just had to drive and pass”. :)

The recent times have been stressful, being bombarded with work , work and more work. Even weekends have been hectic. And the fact that I usually draft my post in the office ( * looks around to make sure nobody is  around*), kept me from updating this space. Apologies.. :)

 

 Okay, You know that feeling when you have spent all your study holidays doing everything but studies and when you finally decide to open your text book, the shear amount of pages scares the sh*t out of you? It is well, ‘almost’ the same feeling when I click open the ‘New Post’ page after this long.I have been mentally jotting down all things I need to do posts on and now that list is way too long to consider. Hmmph. So, here is one to start with.

I was among the contestants of ‘Miss India California 2008′…I mean, backstage…I mean, helping out one of the contestents..who is my good friend.

Okay, Okay, Fine. I wasn’t one of the contestants, but was there to help my friend S who was competing for the title.

( Hello, the title says ‘Miss’ and I am a ‘Mrs’ since years now. See? :)

S is a recent friend – Tall, beautiful figure, gorgeous eyes and intellect which can beat any smarty pants around. While surfing the internet she happened to see this website for the Beauty Pageant. The date for the event was one day before her 28th B’day. And, guess what? The age limit for the contestants said 28 ! So, that became the only motivation for this girl who has never ever been on a beauty pageant or ramp walks earlier. Why not add this to my bucket list and tick it off before I turn 28, she thought. Once she was shortlisted, we encouraged her enough to be confident and do the best.So, there I was, in the backstage, trying to help S put on her makeup and pin up her sari ( yes, yes! there was an ethnic round where people wore sari too).

The scene backstage was quite an experience – standing among those BEA-uuuuutiful girls and watching them flutter their eyelashes as they put on mascara.

Well, beauty isn’t just skin deep and it showed when some of them opened their mouths to speak. One girl was on the phone yelling harshly at her mom for not being on time to help her! Another one was grumbly all the time and used the f*** word every 20 seconds ! I think I even heard one another girl ( NRI second generation teenager like most others in the competition) say ” Heck, I hate Indian clothes! I wanna get this over with !” while she was getting ready for an ethnic round.

But sweetness and charm did exist too. Like, this one girl who saw me standing lost in thoughts and quite bored , smiled warmly and started a friendly conversation.Another one who spoke so lovingly to her mom who was helping her dress up, even though she was super tensed.

As I watched the whole event from backstage, I secretly hoped that S gets through as a winner. Not just because she was my friend, but since I saw her as the smartest and most humble ones among the lot. But, what do I know – she got eliminated in the talent round.

On a closer look, I noticed that all the contestants who had danced ( Kathak , Folk, Bollywood or anything ) were promptly chosen for the next round while others with any other talent – singing or poetry were royally eliminated. Okay, so anything other than dancing is not a talent worth it for a Beauty Queen – we get the hint. Arrgh !%^&*!??

As for the final questionnaire round – the questions are provided to the contestants days in advance. They get to prepare and by heart the answers and spill it all on stage when they are asked to. Hey, I helped S prepare most of her answers and here is a sample:

Question: Do you believe in the statement “Its a man’s world”?

Answer: Yes, I do. The women might be going to the moon now, but the rocket is still launched by men. The women might now have laws for equal rights now, but the constitution was still written by men. The women might be big executives now, but the founder presidents are still men. The women might seem to be winning, but the competition is still controlled by men.

I think, It shall take a few more ages to get to a neutral ground where it is just ‘people’s world’ and not exactly men or women’s.

What do you think?

Coming back to the stage, those questions and those answers that evening were nothing more than Clichéd. How many more times will Indian Girls mention Indira Gandhi and Mother Teresa in a beauty pageant??!! Agreed that they were/are great inspirations, but can people be a little more creative and think out of the box ? How about Neerja Bhanot or Kiran Bedi for a change?

Well, the evening was glamorous and full of style. But, I am not sure whether I’ll watch a Beauty Pageant on TV with the same enthusiasm anymore.

It was all too real and ‘normal’ backstage.

Note: Watch out for more on this space with stories involving Psycho Neighbor ( seriously, no kidding! ) and AWARDS * Blink Blink * :)

Cya, will try and be back soon !

These two guys – PR and RA are temporary consulting employees in our team. They both come from the same South Indian state, thus speak the same language. I am one other desi in our team and understand their language. They are both good people, quite helpful and friendly.

I have, however, started getting aversive towards those two since some time now. Why ? Here goes :

* Discussion of all matters – Official or not, AS LOUDLY AS THEY CAN. So loud that those in the entire office building who understand their language now know : Why PRs wife does not like radish, What is wrong with RAs car and yeah, Which movie did each watch recently, complete with the good/bad review et all.

* More than 50% of the day is spent chit chatting. Who said women talk too much? Either in the cafeteria or in their cubicles or generally in the corridor these two are chatting away to glory.

* Have you heard of afternoon walks ? Yes, but for 1 full hour after an elaborate lunch at office? I kid you not, I was invited to join them, many times. Of course my reply was “No, Thanks” ( You enjoy your own thundering voice discussions about family and cars. Me not interested, Thanks).

* And this one is the worst. Proudly announcing that they have not done any work worth a minute in the entire day! “We are consultants. Why should we be bothered about the company? We come, pass time everyday and get paid good money by the hour. You permanent employees go suffer. Hahaha!” Those are the exact words from one of them when I jokingly said that I’ve never seen them busy at work.

The last one has been repeated for more than 10 times so far…of course the wording are different each time as per the context of the talk. Consultant or not, I would be disgusted to while away office time and proudly assert it as an achievement. Consultant or not, I would respect my place of work and my employer who pays for my daily bread. Yes, these old values still hold good for me.

Our team manager is a wonderful lady, very hard working and a totally positive person. She does not seem to notice or know about these two guys going la-la and time passing in the office. Not sure I must alert her or just shut up and do my job.

But then, I am afraid my disgust will just spill out someday, somehow when I cannot contain it anymore.

I don’t know.

So, this noon I was at the cafeteria heating up my lunch box in the microwave when this Chinese looking guy walked up with his lunch box. As usual, I threw a brief smile at him and continued to do my business, when he said -

“Hi. So when are you planning for a baby?”

“Sorry??!”

“You are married for some years now, no? When will you have a baby?”

“Ah.. not sure yet.” ( WTF!! I hardly know this person. Why am I even answering him!)

“I think I’ll have another one by next year.”

“Oh, Ok.” ( Wow, thank you so much for this critical information Sir. What would I have done without it.)

“Bye then.”

“Bye” ( Phew! )

Does this kind of weird viva voce sessions happen only to me or such specimen with bizarre questions are common all throughout?

As far as professional roles go, I have, no doubt, been lucky so far.
Five years in the field is not a big deal and not so much of an experience either, I know.But, I have had 4 different managers till date, owing to various circumstances, not necessarily job change.

The first one was my mentor, the ever-so-nice-and-patient M, who was so brilliant that the entire company relied on his shoulders..well, almost. I have fonder memories of my first job than many, all thanks to M.

In the next company, there were the other two – both extremely professional and hard core perfectionists. They were mostly polite and good people, if not consistently.

Currently, K is my manager. She is the combination of all good things I saw in the earlier ones and some more..

In the last 1.5 years of working under her, I have never once seen her angry or even irritated. That smile seems genuine and never seems to leave her face. More than 4 projects at a time is not a simple task to manage, added the fact that she is a mother of two little kids aged 2 and 4! All the deadlines, time tracking and never-ending meeting schedules can be mind boggling. With just 30% of her workload, I get all ‘Arrrrrrgh!’ sometimes. But, never seen her cringe atall. The others in my team who report to her can vouch that they have never seen that either !

“K, I think we have a problem !!!” – I panic sometimes when things goes wrong.

“Oh, that’s Okay. If you do this and then do that, it should be all good. I remember being in that situation few years back. I panicked too. But, that’s not worth it. Relax” she says calmly and smiles.

“K, Just updating you about this task. It’s completed.”- I say about a small business that I took care.

“Great! Am so thankful you are around!” she says with a true thanks in her eyes, making me feel important, yet another time.

“K, Could I leave early today?. I have a doctor’s appointment. My cold hasn’t left me in a week” – I say.

“Sure. Take good care. Try the XYZ tablet. Works like magic. You could also take the ABC syrup to boost immunity” – She has concern in her voice and really wants to help.

I am not actually exaggerating when I say K is goodness personified.
Heck, I don’t even get any stupid little thing to comment about my manager, when everyone else seems to have loads to crib and complain about theirs.

For the info, K is an American by origin and has been in the US of A all her life.

Few weeks back, her mom was diagnosed with liver cancer. Worst part- her mom does not believe in modern medicine and is sticking to her holistic approach – of meditation and fasting ! ( An American prefers holistic approach to cure cancer! Can you believe that?!)

K and her family have been worried and are struggling to convince her for chemotherapy. She has, however, been stubborn and holding on to her beliefs in spite of the deteriorating health.

K is mostly working from home these days, preferring to stay with her mom more than ever. In spite of these strenuous situations, K is still the same.. no bickering, no complaints. However, I do notice the subtle shade of worry on her face when she tries to pull up a smile.

Hearty prayers for the recovery and good health of that mother who raised a daughter so beautiful – both inward and out.

Good things happen to good people, I have heard.
So be it, please !

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