Beliefs, this and that.

I had plans to write down a fun list of things that has been happening with me in recent times.As I biked on the trail bearing the cold evening wind and smiling at the big bright moon above me yesterday, I made a mental note of all that I was going to jot down here.

But, I woke up to a strange day today.

No smile in return to my smile when I woke up, no ‘Good Morning’ hug, not even a word from H.

I knew the reason why, so let it pass. He is taking his time, but will be back to me soon..I thought.

Like any normal morning, on a working day, I got busy packing lunch for both of us while H went into the bathroom to shower. In some time, I heard him come out and get ready for office.

As I stood there, in the kitchen, very sure about H coming in to pick up his lunch and say bye, I heard the main door bang shut. I continued to stand there, fidgeting with the things on the kitchen counter, still assuming that he went out for something and will be pick up his lunch and say bye.

I might have stood there for about 10 minutes before coming out to the living room and finding out his laptop bag gone. So, were his shoes and the car outside. All gone.

He had left..without a word.

Never happened before.

It started yesterday night when we went to this couples place ( Sh the wife and Mh the husband) for dinner.They are H’s distant relatives too.

Sh and Mh are one of the most open minded and liberal people I have known. From ideas for a better socio economic society to dealing with annoying people in the family, their perspective has mostly left me nodding my head and thinking ‘Wow! they should blog!’ (Yeah, I checked, they didn’t. Hmmmph.)

So, after dinner all 4 of us sat down with some really delicious Rasmalai, talking over general matters, when this sensitive topic came up.

Me and H have always had difference of opinion about how far can one go with religious beliefs. Yes, we both are hindus, still.

I am of the opinion that each have their own standards of being religious.

One might want to wake up at 4 AM in the morning and climb up 1000 steps up the hill and pray to feel connected to God.
While some others might just feel equally connected just by sitting at home and chanting a few mantras with devotion.

One might feel that falling at the feet of all the ‘holy’ men and accepting their ‘holy’ prasadam is one way to salvation.
While some others might detest the same, and think there need not be any mediators between you and God. Not holy men.

One might believe that donating generously to temples is the best way to support the betterment of society, indirectly.
While some others might believe direct donations for the betterment of poor and needy is the only way to go.

If you have not guessed yet, the latter are my type of people. H belongs to the former group of believers.

I was caught in the heat of the moment and proved to the crowd how H belongs to the old school of thought and has forced me into it, many times, without my consent. Sh and Mh, supported my point of view fairly aggressively.

I might have pulled some sensitive chord somewhere at some point during this whole thing…because H said ” Then, why did you ever have to marry me?”

I tried making the air lighter by joking ” Well, you did not have your religious beliefs listed on your resume when I chose to marry you” with a genuine smile.

But, I guess the damage was done.

H did not utter a word to me during the entire drive back. I tried my best to tell him that it was just a healthy discussion and I totally support his beliefs though I don’t believe in them.

It is way past 2 in the afternoon now, the next day..and there is still not a word from the other end.

I have left him a voice message , 2 emails and about 5 missed calls so far. I am not being let in, yet.

Hey H,

Have I done/spoken anything that deserves such a punishment?
I do have my right to speak my mind, no? You got your fair chance too.

Come on now, sweetheart, it is getting lonely without you already.

Temples, beliefs and holy men might be all that they are worth…but not enough to keep us sad like this.

Come on now, call up and say “I miss you too”.

I’ll eagerly wait for your bear hug when I reach home from office today.

Are you listening?


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14 Responses to Beliefs, this and that.

  1. Never Mind says:

    Awww…….so did you get your hug yet? Oh, and they say make-up sex is the best kind πŸ™‚

  2. Gnightgirl says:

    I think there’s a full moon this week. The subject matter different, but the scenario much the same this week over here too.

    Hope everyone’s kissed and made up soon. Religion is tricky subject; funny we can become so angry and bitter over something that’s ultimately supposed to bring peace to our hearts and souls.

  3. Dee says:

    Aww H, she said she was sorry already!

    On another note, the DH & I belong to different religions and he is a Hindu where I am a Catholic.. Everyone knows the Christians have a fun life, we have no restrictions and no problems whatsoever with rituals.. But the DH is a brahman which means umpteen number of rituals, and as always I get bored after sometime of following these things.. This annoys the DH, because he compares coming to the church once a month to atleast 10 temple visits a month.. Always a fight… ALWAYS!

  4. Devaki says:

    Awww, love the note at the end. You have a beautiful way of making up AHK, I’m sure H will melt! If he hasn’t already. πŸ™‚

  5. La Vida Loca says:

    hope u guys make up soon, if not already

  6. Never Mind : H finally called me back late in the evening. Forced him for a hug later..did not come naturally.
    So, the make up sex will have to wait, I guess. * Sigh *

    GNightGirl: Yes, yes..a full moon.
    Aww, you guys too? Hope all’s well by now dear.

    Oh, so true with the religion part. Ironical isn’t it?
    Loved your line so much, will use it on H, now that he is back but not fully normal with me yet.


    Dee: Hey, I know the hindu-catholic part.
    Me an ardent follower of your blog posts, you see πŸ™‚

    Hmm, I understand how annoying it can get.
    Me and hubby belong to the same religion and yet so many differences.

    I think it has got to do more with the attitude and perspective than the religion itself?

    Devaki: Thank you sweets.
    Actually, H does not know about this blog ( I don’t intend to share since I want my private space here)
    So, he didn’t read that part.

    He is back and good with me now, but still uptight and snappy. 😦

  7. La Vida Loca : Yeah, yeah, made up.
    But it still doesn’t feel right with him yet..lets see.

    Thanks for the hug dearie!

  8. DewdropDream says:

    awwww… good to hear you guys made up. Sometimes it’s easy to get carried away in the moment and say something you might otherwise have not said. Anyway, here’s a hug for you πŸ™‚

  9. DewDropDream : Hmm. you’re right. Happens all the time with me..

    All’s well in my world now.
    Thnx! {Hugging back}

  10. Ram says:

    Hmmmmm… Interesting. I must say your husband is a girl.

    Whats to get offended? And even if you are offended you should do the manly thing and shout at the girl.

  11. Ram: Hi, first time here?

    As far as I know my husband is NOT a girl πŸ˜€

    Manly thing is to shout at the girl?? Huh, now that is one piece of ‘knowledge’ that might get you thoroughly thrashed one day. πŸ™‚

  12. Ram says:

    Think about it. What would have made the two of you feel better?

    Scenario 1: (What happened)

    Scenario 2: The same night. He comes. He shouts at you for screwing up. You cry, or act like crying. He then apologizes for shouting. You forgive each other and things are fine the next day.

  13. chandni says:


    I hope u both kiss and make up soon

    thankfully, religion is never a problem with the boy and me. We both are hindu, we’re both not religious, and we both couldn’t care less about rituals and temples and preists πŸ˜‰

  14. Ersa says:

    First time here…

    This post was v sweet, I had to go through the comments to know how it ended ;-)…Good to know you made up…

    Nice blog.

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