“You look so fat! Almost ill ! Oh, look at your face !!Tch, Tch. What’s going on?”
Would this be an acceptable line coming from a friend, even though she is close to you and your family, especially when the words come at you as you just open the door , smile and welcome her into your home ?
Am sure none of us think this is acceptable. It is downright rude to speak so bluntly about someone’s weight gain or the way they are carrying it on their face, especially when you first see them.
The exact same as above, but just replace the word ‘fat’ –
“You look so thin! Almost ill ! Oh, look at your face !!Tch, Tch. What’s going on?”
Now, does it sound more acceptable? Probably..yes?
Many people I know seem to think so. And, they use it liberally on me. Not just when I open the door to welcome them home , but anywhere and everywhere else possible.
Why does society think it is okay to throw the thin/skinny word around and comment any way they like? The person on the receiving end has lesser feelings?
Why is it the norm to be nice and polite about one’s weight gain, but outright harsh when it comes about one’s weight loss? Why the double standards?
To anyone who throws the thin/skinny/ill word at me, especially as the first thing when I meet you :
I have had enough and I am not offering any more explanations! I look the way I do and I am perfectly fine with it. I may or may not be feeling ill, but that’s none of your business since you cannot even greet without exclaiming about the weight. Thank you for your unsolicited concern, but I’m geared up for a different reaction this time. You will either receive dead silence that will embarrass the sh** out of you OR royally hear back open comments about your humongous butt. Either one depending on my mood.